Instead, all who describe what happens to suicides in the afterlife explain that they are met with understanding and compassion. They endure seeing the devastating effect they've had on their loved ones by ending their lives, but not as a punishment. They are simply aware of what those left behind are going through. Then, they must face the same issues they thought they were escaping in life, but now when they resolve them, they won't be with the people who love them who could have enjoyed the time with them, and with whom they could have had a happy life after resolving the issues.
The very clear, consistent message from those in the afterlife is that no one judges us; we judge ourselves. Eternal life is composed of lessons through which we become increasingly spiritually mature. We learn about ourselves and our behavior, feel we need to change because we ourselves aren't satisfied with our present status or we see the rewards of the change, and we ourselves initiate the change. No one judges us.
This is a quotation from the book I co-authored on induced after-death communications:
One of the prominent, recurring lessons we have learned from both IADCs [induced after-death communicative] and NDEs [near-death experiences] is that when someone has caused pain to others in life, the person doesn't get away with it. In the life review portion of the NDE, one faces the emotional effects of their actions on others. In IADCs the deceased who committed suicide are experienced as very aware of the pain their suicide caused in their friends and loved ones. The result is deep, genuine remorse in every IADC of a suicide that I have done: "I'm really sorry. I really didn't know my suicide would have this effect on everyone. It wasn't your fault." (Induced After-Death Communication: A New Therapy for Grief and Traumatic Loss. Hampton Roads: 2005. p. 84)
Robert Brown, the well-known medium who writes about what he has learned about the afterlife from spirit, writes this about suicides who have crossed over:
Do they regret their actions? Every sitting I have conducted, the communicating Spirit has replied Yes to that question, not so much because of how they had harmed themselves but for the pain that they inflicted on those they now realize truly loved them. They feel regret for the relatives and friends and loved ones whom they witness being in pain and distress on the Earth plane. I am told by Spirit that all are met at the point of physical death, and suicides are no exception. Normally, when someone passes over a great crowd comes together to celebrate their homecoming--it can be a wonderful celebration. In the case of suicide, however, one or two loving souls, often close relatives who love them unconditionally and who have already passed, meet them and explain that yes they have indeed reached home, but they are asked to look back and see what they have left behind. What is it that they see? Invariably they witness their loved ones in anguish, often they see parents or relatives berating themselves, asking what else they could have done. "If only we had listened," is a thought they often hear.